Remember that song by Chicago oh so many years ago If You Leave Me Now? The song is all about how we feel if someone threatens to leave us. Oh how difficult endings can be. If you are anything like me you wrestle with the what should I do question? I repeatedly ask yourself what if this is the wrong decision? And I am wrestling with that question right now. There is a chance for a change in my life. And it’s not easy to make the decision.
So here are some of the ways that I make a decision in life.
Make a list of pros and cons.
One side of the list will probably be larger than the other. Keep in mind this list is simply a starting point. Don’t say to yourself there are too many cons to this I shouldn’t do it or vice versa. This list will simply help you identify problems that may arise from the possible change in your life.
How will you deal with upcoming challenges?
Take a close look at the cons. Look at ways that you can deal with these cons, and ask yourself are they really that big of a deal? Some will be, and some won’t. One example is I’m leaving a high paying job for a lower paying job because it lowers my stress level. Work out a budget ahead of time, is it a budget you can live within? Another example is I want to go back to school will I have time to study and meet my current obligations? You might need to take a look at what obligations are necessary and which ones aren’t?
Does this change fit into my long term goals?
Think to yourself, does this change fit in with where I want to go in life? Is it a new relationship? Ask yourself, will this relationship move me to what I want? Will this person be supportive of my long term goal? New job, does this job provide me with training, a better schedule, or simply more pay? If you ask yourself these questions it will help you identify whether the decision is a quick fix or something that will make your life better.
Remember that change is always stressful, but there are ways to make the decision a little easy. And as you leave one phase of your life the next one will begin.