Tuesday, March 25, 2014

That’s Not Going To Work

Have you ever had the times when someone insists that you do something, and you know in your heart of hearts that’s not going to work. Everything in your body and soul says if you handle things the way someone is telling you to, it’s just not going to be good for you.

So how do you handle those situations? This is what I’ve found to work.

First, don’t be afraid to say no.

Saying no to someone when they are asking you to do something that you know isn’t going to work isn’t wrong. It shows that you can set limits. Remember, you are setting limits in your life so the person you say no to, might get a little angry. That doesn’t mean you are wrong or that you have done something wrong. It’s okay to say no!

Second, Stay Calm and State On

This is important, stay calm. Don’t argue with the individual. Simply say no, I can’t do that, and state why. Make sure that you don’t give a lengthy explanation. This is not an argument. You are setting your limits, and stating why.

Third, Offer Alternatives

It is fine to state I cannot do this, but I am willing to do this. Often individuals may not have thought of the solution you offer so they will be happy. Keep in mind just as many people will not be happy with your alternative. At this point shut up. It’s not going to do any good to discuss any further.

Lastly, Don’t Regret Your Decision

If you know you’re right. Then you’re right. That’s confidence. Rehashing your decision will only make life more difficult. Remember, if something is telling you shouldn’t do something that way there is a reason, listen to yourself. 


  1. thanks for this..... sometime it's good for a reminder :)

  2. Hi Heidi, I can think of more than a few times I have used this method. Thanks for linking up with us on Meet The Neighbors today