Have you ever been asked a question that you never want to answer? I always think why did you ask that when someone asks me. I always dread the question do you have kids? My answer is always no, I have cats. You see for years, and I do mean years, individuals followed that question with well why don't you have kids? I always thought to myself, nobody would dream of asking someone why they have kids so why are they asking me why I don't.
The truth is I always felt like individuals were judging me for not having children. And it wasn't a positive judgment either.
One day I was talking with a friend, and I informed her that I try not to tell people how they should handle situations that have arisen with their children because I don't have kids. It seems kind of judgmental to do that. And she pointed out to me that maybe I should be telling them since I made responsible decisions in my life. It was the first time in my life that someone gave me positive feedback for not having children. I was floored.
So as I said earlier when people ask me do you have kids? I now simply respond with no, I have cats because who are you to judge decisions I've made that were responsible decisions for my life?