I have a friend who will remain nameless. She has struggled with weight loss as long as I have known her. That's probably 20 years. I have seen her try different diets and exercise routines. She is able to stick with them for a period of time, and then after a few months she it gets difficult.
She finally came to the decision that it was time for something different. She decided surgery was needed. It seemed like it was all set to go, but at the last minute her insurance didn't pay for it. A huge setback. But my friend didn't give up her dream to a healthier lifestyle. She began to save money for the surgery. It took a couple of years, but she did it!
Now that she had enough money for the surgery, the next step was to go back to the doctor and start getting to the point where she could have the surgery. She had to go on a liquid diet. And she had to loose more weight. She is still in the process of loosing the weight so that she can have the surgery.
This has been a long journey and the one thing I have learned is there is a fine line between being supportive and being a weight Nazi. The first step to encouraging my friend is not to ask if she should be eating that. You are judging your friend at this time. And if the person has been on many diets they are very aware of what is going to cause them to loose weight. Second eating healthy can be a challenge. Second, if your friend is serious about their diet, try to find activities that don't revolve around food. While you may have once enjoyed going to the local Chinese buffet with your friend, you might want to just go for a walk around the mall instead. And if food is involved cooking together is maybe a little better than eating out. You have more control over the ingredients. Lastly, remind your friend that whatever choice they make you're still going to be friends. It's all up to them. And the best form of encouragement is just being around whether they need someone to talk to or they need someone to remind them that they will get to the place they want to get to.